The word “slut” can conjure up thoughts of sexually promiscuous women who like casual sex or dress provocatively. However, being a slut doesn’t have to mean these things.
It’s totally cool if you want to stimulate your nipples, clitoris, and other erogenous zones during sex. It can actually help you get orgasm.
1. Keep it short and sweet.
You don’t need a full sex play session to turn her on. In fact, a few short moments of sexual pleasure can have her ready to go again. Getting horny is all about sexy foreplay, and stimulating her clitoris is the best place to start. Try rubbing it horizontally or vertically with your sexy member or finger, and tease her climactic “U spot” before you insert, suggests sexpert Sera Miles.
You can also stimulate her clitoris with your cock, or with a well-lubricated toy like b-Vibe, Le Wand, or the Cowgirl. Whether she’s laying on the couch or sitting on the toilet, a few short, sweet strokes of your penis will have her salivating.
If sexy foreplay isn’t possible, consider turning her on with some sultry fiction or naughty internet surfing. Reddit might have a reputation for being a cesspool of misogynistic garbage, but there’s plenty of sexy, foreplay-focused feminist porn that’ll get her horny in no time. Just make sure to keep the content PG-13 or less. Besides, you never know when someone will be watching!
2. Make it fun.
Whether you have a high libido or just enjoy the thrill of getting turned on, acting like a slut can be fun. This can include flirting with multiple guys, sucking cock and even wild, kinky acts of oral sex or masturbation. However, it’s important to use safe sex practices with any guy, so you don’t end up pregnant or hurting yourself. If you’re concerned about your safety, consider hosting sex at your home rather than a public place where someone might see you leave. [3]
If your man is typically the one who initiates sex, try asking him to let you take the lead at some point to show him how slutty you can be.
3. Use sex toys.
Using a vibrator or sex toy is not only perfectly normal, but it can also be an excellent way to get yourself aroused and ready for the bedroom. And don’t let anyone shame you for wanting to use a sex toy, or tell you it will ruin real sex. That’s just sexist.
Try clearing out 60 minutes of your calendar for a weekly sex toy date. Just like you might schedule a hair or work call, this can help you focus on yourself and your desires. Just make sure to always have a backup plan in case your partner doesn’t give you enthusiastic consent.
4. Ask him to touch you.
There’s a reason some men might consider you a slut if you enjoy showing off your body. You’ll probably spend time in bars and parties, or you may use a hookup app to find one-night stands. While a high libido isn’t necessarily indicative of being a slut, you do have to take control of your pleasure.
It’s not uncommon for women to give hints that they want their partners to initiate sex but those hints can often be missed. It might be time for you to start making some bold moves.
A little bit of teasing can get him into the mood, so try asking him to touch you in a certain way – like touching his neck or hand. Start slowly and then increase the pressure as you tease him in erogenous zones.
You could also give him a big, sigh-inducing kiss to get his lips soft and receptive. Then he’ll be more likely to respond to your advances in the bedroom. Make sure you’re using safe sex techniques to avoid any health risks and complications.
